Is there a need to compare in the first place? You are you. Everyone is unique, special, an individual.
The actions we take are a result of our beliefs and the actions lead to consequences which could in turn reinforce our beliefs.
Good results. Confident. Outgoing.
Or outgoing, confident, do well and get good results.
I am confused. At home, I was told that I had all the pampering and autonomy because I had good academic results. I would be nothing and nobody if I could not do well.
Maintaining a perfect academic record was the sky of my universe. Now the sky has collapsed. Yet, people did not give me up. Why? I thought they like me mainly because I could deliver good RESULTS? Hmm, now I know my personality is important, too. Maybe it’s more important than what I could imagine?
I listen. I listen to your words as well as your silence. They compliment each other. Remember, to speak less is to speak more.
Prof, perhaps that’s my real fear - I may succumb to temptations and pressure to be what I chose not to be. It could even be worse - I might not even realise such subtle changes in me as I become engulfed in the flames of busyness for my selfish interest of being recognised and be promoted. It is scary that one day in my desire to clime up the corporate ladder I’ll betray myself.
This is horrifying. I do not have a long term goal in life. I do not have a blueprint of the person I want to be. I just follow my intuition to follow the rights, and correct the wrongs.
It’s time to draft out some, eh?
The best service we can give is to let people know they are able, reliable and valuable. – William Purkey
Prof, how can you be so sure you won’t be wasting your time on me or your other students?
Carpe diem. Seize the day.
We do not work because of duty. We work because we want to.
Why did I painstakingly mark 309’s quiz scripts? I wasn’t asked to do it. Yet, I stayed back late after my required office hours to do it. Hmm, Yangfan, why arh?
We need to confront this loose way of talking and ask ourselves who we mean when we say “they”.
This line reminds me of The Giver. In the book, the community demanded high precision of language. I want my words to be clear, accurate and succinct.
The students only contact you when they need you or that you’re useful as a stepping stone in their desire for the best possible academic grade, for a better climb in the career.
As long as I am of use, I am more than prepared to be used.
I want to be thoroughly used up when I die. – George Bernard Shaw
To regret is to live in the past and to worry is to live in the future. I am living in the present and the present counts. I want to live now so that others can live better lives.
活在当下。
The vocation of every man and woman is to serve other people. – Tolstoy
Servant leadership is a circle of love in which a commitment to caring produces compassion that, in turn, produces communication, creativity, and common vision - which ultimately produces a caring community. – William Turner
Note the 5 C’s.
I have been served by others since I was born. Food, clothes, shelter, knowledge, care, guidance, etc. Not all the service I received can be paid back by money. If people around me did not care to serve me in the first place, I could not survive. I have received so much, why should I be disgruntled when I am not given more? Why would I hesitate when I am asked to give some and share a lot?
We form societies because we want to be taken care of when we are weak. It is then very sensible to serve the weak when we are strong. The goal is to serve. The “how” is the specifics.
I work with my students so that they can be the best that they can be, personally and professionally. I could be providing opportunities, resources or challenges.
Randy Pausch: Enable others to realize their dreams.
Relationship and issues involving people must take precedence over things. We should also use things and never use people to reach our goals. Research, writing papers must never be done at the expense of people and issues related to people.
People are not means to an end; they are ends in themselves. People are not to be used as steps in our climb up that career ladder.
This line reminds me of the “scary” stories I heard recently about using people to achieve one’s aims.
I am here to serve others.
Who am I?
Why am I here?
Where am I going?
Why am I going there?
– Kevin Cashman
If you don’t like your work, then how can you live your life to the fullest? Work takes up so much of your life. It also takes up the best part of each days.
We can only be young once. This is MY LIFE. I take charge of it. Even though I screw it up, I am still living it passionately. I am not perfect. I am genuine.
People want to work for a cause, not just for a living.
One must care for oneself first before taking care of others.
Nigel said the same thing. :)
Maslow’s Self-actualisation Stage
There is more hunger for love and appreciation in this world than for bread.
The mediocre teacher teaches.
The good teacher explains.
The superior teacher demonstrates.
The great teacher inspires.
